Last night was a night of doing alot of little things. Today is the realtors walk through and pictures. The house is as clean as it is going to get for the time being.

I spent 61 hours cleaning over the last four days and I am burnt out. I still have some things I want to do but I have to stop. I need to relax and recharge and just focus on getting up earlier each morning so I can touch up all the rooms before I leave for work. The only area left that I would consider a disaster is the garage; everything else is clean I just would like to get it more organized as the month progresses.

I have to work this weekend but I have next weekend off and will work on it then. As far as until that weekend my misson is to just keep the clutter from forming.

Last night I through all my clean clothes into bags and put them in my car, which is currently at work. Yep my solution to the laundry I did not have time to fold and put away was to put it in my car (sort of a mobile suitcase).

Wish me luck, hopeing to sell before April 31st - That would give the buyer the tax credit. And that would give us a very quick sell.
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Today I go to see the lawyer, I am as ready as I am going to be. I wonder if she is going to advise me to wait until the STBX has the job situation ironed out and the house is sold?

Yesterday I requested the documents from a divorce lawyer. I finished completing them today. All I need to do is collect the last two years tax statements.
After completing the parenting plan today what do I see that my husband posted on Facebook:

I found this on Facebook
XXXXXXXXXXXX 's kitchen table is a coupon clipping nightmare. really? what great organizational skills you have. now i cant find the gift card for Papa Johns to have a pizza. if it is not one thing it is the next. when will it end. i know when it will end, but if i say it then people will say i am suicidal. and you know how everyone is looking out for everybody but them selves. MIND YOUR OWN F$%^ING BUSINES.

So I did it; I called and made the appointment. I meet with the lawyer on the 6th at 1:30pm.

Last Night I found he posted this on his Facebook:

XXXXXXXXXXXX the new age of me begins tonite.

When I got home his car was in the garage but he was not home and he would not answer his phone. Then later that night when he got home he was mean and was avoiding me. Was thinking he found out about me talking to a lawyer or he was still mad about the spliting of the bills thing, but I am guessing from the post this morning he did not find out about the lawyer because technically he would not have to deal with me, thus is frustration with me would have ended.

I am really shaky about starting this but I dont think I have much of a choice, after he came home from the last long term out of state job he had anger issues and this round they seem worse so I need to get out and get out now.

On a financial front I have two checks to clear before I can close the joint checking account. Then that leave the house, truck and his car in both our names.

I also called and left a message with a realtor I would like to use about calling me so that I can list our house. I plan to move any of my and my sons extra things into my grandmothers basement to clear out the house for listing. I am planning a rummage sale for the 17th but depending on how it goes with the realtor I might skip it and just plan a rummage sale for later.

I showed my husband the spreadsheet I have made to split out our bills.

I has a collumn with our bills and the average amount, then a column with a space for the actual amount and columns for both him and me so we can track who paid what and how much.

Anyway he is not happy. His complaint is that I listed his Child Support payments under him only. I put his car gas, repairs under him and the dental for his daughter under him. Under my I listed the landline phone and the newspaper and my car gas and my car repairs.

I figured it would be easier to just pay our own car gas and oil changes and repairs rather than trying to split that. Is this wrong? How would you do it if you had to split bills?

I figured the child support for his two daughter should come out of his paycheck, They are not my Children and so I am not sure why he would thinks I would do okay with splitting his child support? Is it not his responciblity to make enough money to pay his child support, or as his wife as I suppose to be paying half his child support payments in addition to spliting the bills of our son together.

Help I need to know am I wrong, should I be paying the child support to his two children (pre-marriage).

*** Edit*** We have been married for 8 years, prior to this (ME as the primary income provider) I was paying the majority of his child support or he was paying his child support and nothing to our family how ever you want to look at it.

Yesterday the hubster went to a construction job fair. Yeah??? He claims he is so handy yet for the basement we had to have a handyman come in and finish because he got too stressed out trying to do simple things. I could have done the work but it upset him to watch me do it becuase he should be capable.

He had a few people at the job fair say they would call next week, BUT the problem is it is out of town work, which means added daycare costs and he would need to be responsible for his hotel room and food. Also depending on how often he could return here would depend on if he blew the whole paycheck on junk before he could pay his bills and a split of the household bills...Can you tell I am not to excited about this idea.

Last week he applied at a old employeer (so little retraining required), and he called them today and basically they said no thank you; you have to have a flexable schedule and we were looking at Mon-Fri 9-5 to minimize Daycare. Plus my husband said point blank he was NOT working nights a month or so ago. After this I told him that working opposite my shift might work so that we would need no daycare, but he did not want to go there since he did not think he could sleep if our son was being loud. Also it is a all nights or all days thing we cant plan daycare willy nilly, so not sure IF they would even go for that.

So he plans to visit job service next week and see what they have that is mon-fri 9-5 and maybe in the mean time take a part time job he has last year working 5pm-9pm. I figure the part time job is a good start until something better comes along or if something better doesn't come along it is a building point. Plus it meets the absolute miniumim requirements he needs to bring in to be able to split bills 50/50.

I want use to split bills 50/50 so that he can learn to pay bills and be a contributing member to this family after being underemployed for years.

The drama to continue.....

Well, after the hubster tried to poly the door we got to replace the one upstairs it got white specks in spots (this was with a 4 day dry time). So I have given up. I know at this rate it will take a month to get this door up.

My husband is super busying playing Xbox 360 so to have one side of a door have 2 coats of stain and one coat of poly it has taken 10 days, it still needs the sides and the back done.

I called the place that provided the doors to the builder and am having one prestained. I will then have our handy man come back put in the knob hole, install the knob and put in the hinge holes and hinges and hang it. Two weeks from now my special order door will be DONE!! $80 for the door I just ordered

I am waiting for them to call me back with information so that I can order some siding, when the sprinkler system guy put in the system he got too close to the siding and melted two pieces and the corner piece. I need to have the handy man come over and tell me how many pieces total he thinks we will need to order.

Truck, needs a new starter...Hubster was planning on getting a used one, and installing it himself. Went to see if it would start at all and nothing. So he went to the battery place.

The battery was so low that the battery place is going to try to charge it and then they will test it tommorrow after they see IF they can charge it.

Battery or not IT needs a new starter, there is a problem with the sioloniod on the starter (it is one piece with the starter on this model and not seperate) that allows the vehicle to restart after the vehicle is warm. Anyway now my husband thinks it is just the battery; I HATE this (cuss word here) truck.

Anyway either we will be paying for a battery and a starter. Or a battery now and a starter later. But that is tomorrow.

We need to have the truck running in two weeks time so we can pick up the door and also have it to use for other jobs we need to get done to get the house ready for sell.

I should have just called the repair shop and had them tow it in and fix it BUT I thought it would be easier to do once the hubster was home; but I forgot how EVERYTHING is an arguement over who is right with him and that he takes 5X longer than most people to get around to doing something and 10X longer than most people to finishing it.

On a Positive note..A old friend looked me up and they are so workout crazy that it has motivated me to get off my duff and yesterday I got a workout in (6 mile walk in my reebok tone fit shoes). And this morning I took my diet pills. I need to lose 20 pounds my June 1st I should lose 40 pounds but need to lose 20 for work.

The hubster called and his daughter is in town and she wants him to take her out to dinner. He wanted ideas on where to take her, something not expensive but at the same time enjoyable for her age. It is nice now that he has his own spending money because he is alot more aware of his spending and he is trying to make it last. So that is smile worthy.

Well been out of town for two evenings so far. Before I left I sat down with the husband and told him what he would need to pay, nothing major just his child support payments and sending lunch money for our son. Everything else is on autopayment out of my checking account.

So he is going to get a little taste of paying bills and buying groceries etc.

Not sure how long I will be out of town. We are at a very nice hotel, my only complaint is that this hotel has the worst insolation. Every night at like midnight the people upstairs come in. We can here them walking to the window to turn on the heat then back to the bathroom then back to the bed; then the second one enters the room and goes to the window/bed then to the bathroom and back to the bed.

They are not stomping but they sure are walking heavy heeled. Nothing like having stomp stomp stomp awaken you out of sleep and then having to wait like a half hour for them to stop walking around so we can go back to sleep.

I am currently on the 7am until 7pm shift, as of Monday I will probubly be switching to 7pm until 7am which will be a pain since my roomie is one at 7am until 7pm and will be staying that shift.

I cant wait to get home after this to see how the husband handled the bills and get everything finally totally seperated. Depending on if his checks come in he might have to do some transfering from one account to another so it should be a good learning experience for him.

PLUS he is having to be fulltime daddy and housekeeper only thing to make it better would be if he had to work also (then he would know what my life is like).

I will post if I can later.

Well it is so hard to believe it has been that long. Funny how sometimes people are scared of change so they dont do anything and later look back and it has been YEARS of just going with the flow.

Over the last 8 years we were living different placed for jobs a total of 2 years and 9 months so does that mean it is more like a 5 year 3 month Anniversery?

I bought my husband the Micro HCSD card he wanted for his Cell phone, that and a new trackball mouse. He has already gotten these things. I never was one for waiting.

To Do:
Call Lawyer so next year I am not posting a 9 day to 9 year post.

Last night I finished my Taxes! Yea for me, It took hours and finally after all we went for marriage filing jointly one last time. I ran through everything for itemization then at the end it said standard was better so then I figured I would run the information again as if we both were planning to file seperately. Well because of the child credits I desided to just go ahead one last time filing jointly. Next year hopefully I should be filing Single-Head of Household!

The deposit should be in our joint checking account before the end of the month. The good news is this means I should be able to close the joint checking account faster.

I decided to close the account before the house sells and worst case then we will open a joint checking/savings account just for that, deposit the money, withdraw the money, then close the account.

The tax return is close to $5,000 when you combine both federal and state. State we will get 100% of what we paid in back. Federal we got 16% more than we paid in back, never did understate Turbo Taxes tax liability calculations.

We also ended up using the standard deductions, so all the $ and clothing/household goods donations were for nothing except for KARMA points. Oh well at least I got some stuff out of my house AND now I know for this year to just try to sell the extra stuff I dont want to move to an apartment.

Good News: the handiman is coming on Sunday to finish the work, he should finish Monday at the Lastest. The Bad news is this has Pissed off my husband because he thinks this has ruined his long weekend because now instead of (spending qualitiy time - HA) playing computer games with our son he has to be working (staining the doors that are going to be installed.

My husband is SUCH a drama Queen also he is so lazy, I cant wait for this to be done!!! He is in a tizzy and told me to tell our handiman that he works for us and not the otherway around and He is going to have to do it later. Yeah right, the handiman knows my husband and knows you have to light a fire under his bottom to get him to move. Also if we reschedule we are putting finishing off the house for another month or so. NO I am not about to piss off the handiman so that he quits then we are up a creak trying to find someone else to come in a finsh these small project and charging us 10X as much.

PS did I mention that the handiman is doing this as a favor to me because he knows I am a hard worker and that we (okay I) am trying to sell the house BEFORE the divorce so that is one less thing to fight over. My husband will not let me have the house free and clear and I will not take on this Mortgage if I have to pay him a share of the escrow. You never really know what a house is worth until it sells so we will sell it and split the profits then that is one less thing to pay the lawyers to iron out. I think the house might be worth 209K he thinks it is worth 259K (large difference in escrow value).

Today I need to transfer the money from the joint savings account to the joint checking so I can pay the handiman come Sunday. So I get to close that account also! Whooot Whooot!!

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Transfered the funds (but since I did it online they need to wait 24 hours before they can close the account to Make sure the $ gets to the new account. (Saturday afternoon I could do this but I think I will just wait until Monday)

My husband called he is going to the hardware store and going to buy a set of saw horses like I suggested then get cracking on the staining so it is done in time and QUOTE "Blank can come do the job and then I never have to see him in my house again!" (My husband is all worked up over nothing) He wants to make donuts and play computer games with our Son, it takes maybe 30 minutes to apply the stain then you have to wait to recoat; there will be plenty of time for him to play computer games and cook donuts.

Do you know what they have in common? My mental status or lack of sanity.

This Friday my Son is home from school for a teachers day, so he and daddy (unemployed) get to chill out and play computer games while I will be working.

This sucks but I figured no biggy Presidents day is Monday so I get a shorter longer weekend too. Monday is a teachers thing besides I did mention that Monday was Presidents Day right. Well that is what I have been thinking for this whole week. Yep get through this work crazy week so I can enjoy the Monday off.

Only at this point are you saying to your self (Presidents Day???) isnt that in February? If you are your mental health is better then mine because Presidents day IS in fact in February as I realized when I went to the chart of holidays in the office.

The Story of my dilusion gets better, as I tell my facebook friends I made this mistake (ha ha me - but sad no holiday) one was so kind as to point out it was Daylights savings this weekend (he says isnt that like a holiday). Yeah so not only do I not get my Monday off I am now losing an hour of Sleep this weekend.

The world is trying to drive me crazy; that is my story and I am sticken to it!