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How to bring up the subject...I want a divorce

April 6th, 2010 at 08:53 pm

Well met with the lawyer today. I guess I was suppose to complete the marital property worksheet and parenting plan with my STBX before this meeting. I completed it but it was suppose to be a agreed on division not a here is my idea lets counter.

So I need to sit down bring up the topic and find out what he wants to do with the marital property and custody then return it to the lawyer with a $500 payment then they will complete the paperwork and STBX signs and then I pay the last $500 and they file.

I am so tired of his rages! Okay now that the house is on the market he is happy. So do I make him upset by bringing it up now or wait a few days. But I know he needs to be in a good mood or it will not go well.

I guess I will take the papers home with me and if a opportunity presents itself I will bring them out.

On a positive note he got his job back so he is now earning $1169 pre tax 935.20 take home per month so after child support his net available for fun/bills is 256.20.

I think I will suggest he live in the house rent free until the house sells or his disability payments start. Once the house sells or his disability payments start he will have the money to rent an apartment or can start paying part of the household bills. I think this is fair IF he still agrees to the 60/40 split of the house profits.

Man Why do I try to rescue over and over!!!???

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2 Responses to “How to bring up the subject...I want a divorce”

  1. whitestripe Says:
    April 6th, 2010 at 11:53 pm 1270597995
    1270597995

    My best wishes to you in this difficult time. referring to you rescuing over and over, you sound like you are a very caring person. even though the love you had together is no longer there, you obviously had it at some point and at times like these it's best to focus on that with a clear head. you have a lovely child out of all this and i hope at least some good years. it's time to move on but i think you are doing it as nicely as possible; it will come back to you in a good way.

  2. ambitioussaver Says:
    April 7th, 2010 at 12:54 am 1270601645
    1270601645

    I'm so sorry you're going through this. I don't know all the ins and outs of your marriage but are you 100% sure its over? I just ask because DH and I were once at a point we thought we were over & then we started focusing on being friends first and slowly fell back in love with each other again. But again, I'm not fully aware of your situation. You sound like you are very reasonable and just want to be happy again & you deserve it.

    About the bringing up the subject, for me - reading "The Mind and Heart of a Negotiator" helps me when it comes to difficult situations. I had to read it for a negotiations class I was taking and one of the exercises we did was to be a divorcing couple. First step is always assessing what the other person is after, only then can you really determine the best way to approach the negotiation. If you can put yourself in their shoes then it gives you a stronger case & more likely to negotiate successfully because you'll be addressing their concerns before they even have to bring them up. Anyhow, I hope this helps. My brother is going through a divorce as well & its tough to know the right words to say cause its not a fun process. I just hope in the end that whatever happens, its for the best and you come out a happier person in the end.

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