Yesterday the hubster went to a construction job fair. Yeah??? He claims he is so handy yet for the basement we had to have a handyman come in and finish because he got too stressed out trying to do simple things. I could have done the work but it upset him to watch me do it becuase he should be capable.
He had a few people at the job fair say they would call next week, BUT the problem is it is out of town work, which means added daycare costs and he would need to be responsible for his hotel room and food. Also depending on how often he could return here would depend on if he blew the whole paycheck on junk before he could pay his bills and a split of the household bills...Can you tell I am not to excited about this idea.
Last week he applied at a old employeer (so little retraining required), and he called them today and basically they said no thank you; you have to have a flexable schedule and we were looking at Mon-Fri 9-5 to minimize Daycare. Plus my husband said point blank he was NOT working nights a month or so ago. After this I told him that working opposite my shift might work so that we would need no daycare, but he did not want to go there since he did not think he could sleep if our son was being loud. Also it is a all nights or all days thing we cant plan daycare willy nilly, so not sure IF they would even go for that.
So he plans to visit job service next week and see what they have that is mon-fri 9-5 and maybe in the mean time take a part time job he has last year working 5pm-9pm. I figure the part time job is a good start until something better comes along or if something better doesn't come along it is a building point. Plus it meets the absolute miniumim requirements he needs to bring in to be able to split bills 50/50.
I want use to split bills 50/50 so that he can learn to pay bills and be a contributing member to this family after being underemployed for years.
The drama to continue.....
Unemployment
March 26th, 2010 at 07:50 pm
March 26th, 2010 at 08:14 pm 1269634462
Are there a lot of construction jobs that require working nights?
Could you take the night shift someplace since he seems so opposed to it?
"Also depending on how often he could return here would depend on if he blew the whole paycheck on junk before he could pay his bills and a split of the household bills... "
This to me sounds like there is more going on than just him being unemployed. He could make a 6 figure job tomorrow, but if he doesn't learn to be responsible with it, it won't matter. Time to sit him down and tell him to grow up.
"I want use to split bills 50/50 so that he can learn to pay bills and be a contributing member to this family after being underemployed for years. "
I don't blame you. I don't really advocate treating your spouse like a child, but if he is going to behave like one, perhaps for a while you should control all the finances. Get everything direct deposited into an account YOU control and you give him a cash allowance until he learns to manage his money.
March 27th, 2010 at 12:11 am 1269648660
March 29th, 2010 at 05:33 pm 1269884022
"Are there a lot of construction jobs that require working nights?" The Construction Jobs he are looking at doing involve out of town travel (he would not be home at all), but the No working night shifts was my husbands answer to suggestiong such as Retail, food service and or custodial which he has done in the past.
"Could you take the night shift someplace since he seems so opposed to it?" I am the primary bread winner in our household, If I moonlight I have to get permission from my employer first to insure it does not create a confict of interest. My job pays VERY high for the area I am in and so I would not want to quit but no they will not allow me to work nights; I have the option of coming to work at 7am or 8 am that is all the flexability I have. A
"This to me sounds like there is more going on than just him being unemployed. He could make a 6 figure job tomorrow, but if he doesn't learn to be responsible with it, it won't matter. Time to sit him down and tell him to grow up" I have always payed the bills to ensure they get paid and my husband is always thinking there should be more fun money at the end of the month so that is a reason for the fact I am trying to split the bills so that he gets a real grasping of our finance. He will have to sink or swim.
"I don't blame you. I don't really advocate treating your spouse like a child, but if he is going to behave like one, perhaps for a while you should control all the finances. Get everything direct deposited into an account YOU control and you give him a cash allowance until he learns to manage his money. " I have controlled all the money in the past to make sure the bills got paid but because he was not taking an active part he was under no pressure to work to bring more money, instead he would work the miniumum and complain that he needed more fun money. Now I hope by making him handle his accounts he will either do with less fun money or will work harder to make more income.